An open letter to those who doubted me.

Amazing post, must read!

Unspoken Conversations.

**TRIGGER WARNING**Mentions of rape.

Dear those who doubted me,

I am sorry. I’m sorry that my rape story is not the ‘textbook’ rape story. I’m sorry that I didn’t have bruises or cuts or other injuries to prove I was raped. Most of all, I am sorry that society’s view of rape is so twisted. I’m sorry that society’s perception of rape is so physically violent that when rape occurs in a different situation, it seems so unbelievable to you.

  • Will is a big guy, she wouldn’t have escaped if he really wanted to rape her’
  • ‘She isn’t as sexually experienced as the rest of us, I mean, we’ve all had guys hold our heads when giving a blow job – it’s not a big deal’
  • ‘Why did she go back with him if she didn’t want sex?’
  • ‘He’s a forceful guy, it’s not his fault she couldn’t…

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2015 in review

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 5,600 times in 2015. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 5 trips to carry that many people.

Click here to see the complete report.

The Encouraging Thunder Award


Thank you A Momma’s View for nominating me for this award! I am grateful for the nomination 🙂

Rules for this award:

  • Post it on your blog
  • Grant other bloggers the award

What you cannot do:

  • Abuse or misuse the logo.
  • Claim that it is your own handmade logo.

What you should do after receiving the Encouraging Thunder Award:

  • Enjoy the award!
  • At least give thanks via comments, likes and/or mentioning the blog that you received the award from
  • Mention your purpose in blogging

Why do I blog you ask? I blog for many reasons. I’ve always journaled, and that seemed to not work for me as much as it used to, so my friend suggested getting a blog. I also love to write in general. I love to talk about issues that are relevant to many people and hear about what other people’s experiences have been. One of my favorite things about blogging is the community. I love that people will like and comment on posts. I like that you can get to know another person through their posts. You can cheer them on when they are having a tough time, or offer advice. I blog because it’s a great way to express oneself, to engage in a wonderful community, and to enjoy hearing everyone’s personal journey in this crazy journey called life!

I would like to nominate the following:




I am posting this because I am on my period. I know, probably TMI, but seriously it shouldn’t be that big of a deal. It’s human nature. Every women goes through this every month! To the guys who get squirmy around this or they it’s gross…grow the fuck up. I am not going to apologize if your feelings are hurt by that statement. If you have a girlfriend you will learn that it’s natural and something every woman goes through.

I only bring this up because most men do get uncomfortable around girls if they mention they’re on their period. But WHY? What is the problem?

Jose Angel Garcia is awesome. Have you seen his Instagram post about how men should help their female friends out by bringing tampons and pads to help them out because it’s true not every girl always has them on them.

Anyways…I’m done with my rant. Enjoy your day.


Happy Mother’s Day!

Hope all the moms out there are being spoiled by their loved ones! I got my mom a baking book by Martha Stewart that she had been looking for for ages! She is so happy, and we are planning on baking later today after she works in the garden. I think we might be making Chocalate Wafer Sandwhich Cookies.


They look so good! I can’t wait to make them later today with her 🙂


Finished season 1 of Broadchurch


OMG. That was the best show I’ve ever seen! David tenant was amazing, and I loved his character. My parents got hooked and stayed up until midnight to finish it with me! My dad never gets hooked or watches TV, so this show is really good.

I decided to take notes while watching the season to see if I could figure out who killed him and I won’t tell who the killer is, but let me tell you I had a hunch who it was from one of the first episodes. But for the people who know who killed Danny I have to say the psychology of the killer didn’t make sense. That is, his behavior was misleading during the show. That’s all I’m going to say on it. But brilliant show!


The Phoenix Blogger Award


Hey guys, during my time in the blogging world I’ve seen many different awards go around. A lot are really fun, and creative! I thought “why can’t I create an award?” So that’s what I did. I created “The Phoenix Blogger Award.”

What the award is about: 

The Phoenix Blogger Award is given to bloggers who have gone through challenges in life that changed them in some way for the better. I believe that this award can be given to anyone because we all go through many obstacles in life that we never thought we would go through. I believe that we as a community should give out this award to bloggers we know, have followed, and have been there with them during their individual journeys. We are all strong and have gone through trials in life, and we deserve to be acknowledged for our strength.

Here are the rules:

  1. Include the award image and what the award is about in your post.
  2. Choose one of the following:
    • answer questions that the nominator asked (if nominator didn’t ask questions, chose between the two below)
    • tell us, your audience, about how you overcame a challenge and how it changed you.
    • give advice to your audience about a topic you believe is relevant to your readers that would help them
  3. Nominate anywhere between 3-20 bloggers that you believe deserve this award/acknowledgement and link back to their blog.
  4. Thank the people who have nominated you for the award and link back to them.
  5. Follow the blogger who nominated you
  6. Link your nominees blogs and let them know
  7. Pass the rules onto them

Okay so I am going to start by nominating the following:

  1. My Journey in Healing
  2. Write me something real
  3. A Momma’s View
  4. Strive for Progress, Not for Perfection
  5. Hungry Running Girl
  6. Purely Disordered
  7. Struggles with Sarah
  8. Kanundra’s Blog
  9. Deepthinker321
  10. TheSlayerSeries

So those are the people I’ve nominated! I don’t want to ask you guys questions so chose between:

  • tell us, your audience, about how you overcame a challenge and how it changed you.
  • give advice to your audience about a topic you believe is relevant to your readers that would help them



My parents and I started watching Broadchurch last night, and wow! Absolutely amazing show! We only got to episode 4 of the first season, but it is really good. I really am curious about what sickness Alec has, and how that will affect him in the end. Also, obviously I am dying to know who Danny’s killer is. Anyone else watch Broadchurch? If not, and you like crime shows, give it a shot!


Made a New Page

Hey guys, so I figured since new people subscribe as time passes, that I should make a page that has posts that people commented on, liked, or just seemed relevant to the new people who might be checking out my blog. The page is supposed to give new subscribers an idea of what this blog is about.

Check it out!




I’ve been watching the new TV show Younger with my mom. I know who watches a TV show with their mom when they’re 21? Well I do! I am actually happy that my mom and I have something to do together. It’s nice to have a bonding thing, especially since my mom and I haven’t always had the closest relationship growing up.

Has anyone else watched the TV show? It’s on TVLand, and I’ve never watched a show on their channel before. The main reason I gave it a chance was because they had Hilary Duff in it. I absolutely loved Hilary growing up watching Lizzie McQuire. I even went to one of Hilary Duff’s concerts growing up and met her and got a picture with her! One of my favorite memories from my childhood.

What are your thoughts on the show? Do you just love Josh? I do! 😉


Still Sick…


It’s been almost two weeks and I’m still sick. I finally got my parents to take me to the doctors. I got prescribed antibiotics to take for 10 days. Hopefully the medicine takes hold soon because I am coughing up a storm and my nose won’t stop running, plus I have a on and off fever. My sister has my cold now back at college, and my mom is upstairs with my cold.

Being sick is the worst.


Changed my theme because…

I am leaving. I wanted a new theme to reflect my new start, my new adventure that I will be starting soon.

It’s more girly, but for some reason, I just feel more girly lately. I feel like I want girl friends, and want more than the experience of being a “bro”. At my new college I want to make good girl friends. In all honesty I always envy watching those great close friendships on TV between two girlfriends.


I have two girlfriends back home that I can be that way with, but none at college. So that’s one of my goals in my new start, is to embrace girlfriends, and not be afraid to be feminine.