I am so happy! We got married yesterday and the wedding was so wonderful! It was small, and at our house, but the energy was amazing. So many people showed up, and everyone got along. It was such a beautiful evening.
Cody’s vows blew me away! I think mine blew him away too. I’ll post them below. I know a lot of people after the ceremony came up to me and said they were so touched by both of our vows, and said we both were such great writers! I thought that was cute.
Who am I? It should be a simple question. Not for me. I can always Answer that question. But the answers about a year or two ago, wouldn’t be very in-depth. It would be quite vague an idea of me the things I would have said as little as a year ago. I was pretty lost in life, not knowing what I was doing, with grades to back that up. I could be exceedingly selfish sometimes, albeit inadvertently. I was overall particularly disingenuous. I was absolutely not ready for a relationship when you found me. I was struggling with things that I didn’t even know about. You transformed me for the better and accelerated me mentally 10 years in about a year. I have never had so much confidence in myself and so much self-awareness. I definitely have never felt so confident in being a good father and husband.
I know I have not always been trustworthy, but I hope you can trust me when I say that I will always love you. I will always be there for you, even if we are upset, down frustrated or whatever, I will still be there for you the second you need me. We have been and always will be the best of friends and a fantastic team. A team that is so strong together that we can get through anything and have an invincible resolve as we always have.
This is such an important moment, there is still a little off about it. We’ve only been together for just over two years. Which arguably isn’t very long. Well, for people these days around our age it’s practically unheard of. It really is a short time but it has felt like the longest time being with you and I wouldn’t trade a single minute of it. It sure as hell hasn’t felt like two yours though. It’s felt a lot longer than that. I feel as if we already have been married this whole time. The way we are together and the way we get through the great times and the worst times. Neither of us have ever quit on each other. We have gotten considerably good at resolving with a mutually beneficial ending of any conflictions. I don’t think we could be readier to be married and I also think that we are ready to be parents. Maybe not prepared as much as we could be, but I do believe we are more than ready for the responsibility together.
Cody, I can’t tell you how lucky I feel to be standing here today, marrying you. The past two years have been such an adventure, and I can’t wait to see what our future holds. You are my best friend. I have never been able to spend as much time together with someone without getting annoyed with them, but with you, I keep wishing we had more time in the day to spend together. I never tire of your company, and always love being with you whether we are doing something together, or we’re in the same room doing our own thing. Your presence is not only calming but safe. You’re the first man to make me feel safe and loved unconditionally. You are my teacher. I never was interested in cars until I met you. Now I know some car talk, and have watched you work on cars and can kind of follow what you’re doing or talking about. I know that within a couple years you will probably teach me how to do some of those things myself. You are my partner. Meeting you has been an amazing experience. I have learned so much from you, I have grown with you over the past two years, and I love you more with every day that passes.
I know we have made it through a lot. Most couples our age wouldn’t make it through half the things we’ve encountered. I want you to know that no matter what challenges may lay ahead, I am here. I am by your side, now and always. I will always love you, support you, encourage you, and protect you. I am your best friend, a shoulder to cry on, your cheerleader, your partner. I will always push you to achieve your dreams. I will always protect you and be on your side defending you when needed. I hope you see that from today forward, you won’t ever be alone. You always have a friend, a lover, a teacher, and a partner by your side. You’ll always be safe with me. Together I know we can face anything. We balance each other out, with each of us having opposite strengths and weaknesses. I love our differences, and I love our similarities. I will always be yours. Even when I am gone, I’ll still always be with you. I honestly couldn’t imagine my life without you, Cody. I love you unconditionally, and can’t wait to start our life together as a family.
So there they are. I absolutely love reading Cody’s vows, they make me tear up and feel so loved. I am so happy to be able to say I am his wife.